This is a topic that I’ve been wanting to explore much more deeply because as a witchy mom trying to raise witchy kids unfettered by the heavy weight of a Christian upbringing I’ve learned that there isn’t often a lot of space for us in public ritual spaces. Sure, they claim to be “kid-friendly” — maybe there’s a craft or two and they won’t outright turn you away at the door, but as soon as Junior starts whining how hungry they are when the circle was just cast you are inundated with sideways glances and an obvious energy of “what was she thinking bring a kid here if they couldn’t handle it?”. As a mom you want desperately to include them in your magickal practice, but just how do you do that without offending folks?
Most moms wanting to truly involve their kids end up just stopping attending public circles. Goodness knows it’s hard enough to find a group you mesh with without kids, nevermind with! That’s a big part of why I actually created my business: so that I could serve witchy mamas and create a community where we can all finally feel like we belong (no sideways glances included — hello, judgement-free zone!) Once you’re on your own though, what sorts of things can you do with them to teach them well?
What sorts of activities land well for kids? What better than to just get outside and observe nature? I don’t know about you, but some of my favorite times have been the periods in my life when I made the time to walk daily. It gave me the opportunity to really see the changing of the seasons firsthand; what plants grow when, the budding of the leaves in the Spring, the changing of birdsong, etc. All of our celebrations (Sabbats, Esbats) are really designed to help us align with the cycles of nature. What better place to start than your own backyard?
You could also visit a local nature center, sugar house (in the late winter, especially), science museum, go on birdwatching expeditions, go to a planetarium, visit your local public gardens, etc. Outside is really the best place to be!
I, personally, like to incorporate a craft into our regular ritual activities; make something that we will use in the course of our celebration. We’ve made masks, Brigid dolls, rattles, and more! Just like teaching kids how to make their own foods makes them more likely to appreciate where their meals come from, creating the tools and ingredients for the spells and rituals you perform together will make them more interested and personally invested in your practice together. Plus it is the beginning of teaching that energy/intention follows thought.
Karate – This activity is great because it teaches all kinds of things you want to develop in your child regardless of spirituality; self-discipline, confidence, focus, self-control. I can’t speak highly enough about this one as a mum with a kiddo that takes karate. I’ve seen how well it can work and the positive impact it can have! Plus, meditation is often included in classes.
Yoga – Great for the mind and body, too — certain types of yoga focus more on the healing restorative themes that touch more on spirituality. (Kripalu, Yin, Hatha, Kundalini, etc.) Another excellent way to use movement and the body to teach spiritual values.
Dance – Specifically intuitive or free dancing; the ability to release your worry or control over the movements your body is making and allowing them to happen intuitively. This helps kids learn how to let go and allow their creative, intuitive brain take over. This is, at its most basic, a form of trance. In fact, it is often called “Trance Dancing”.
Gardening – Need I say more? Plant seeds, get your hands in the dirt, and watch things grow! Another great way to tap into the cycles of nature! After all, the Wheel of the Year is, in great part, centered around the agricultural cycles!
Geology – They can learn about the science about crystals and minerals AND the metaphysical properties!
Meditation has tons of benefits, but as they grow older, the skill is crucial to magick and spellwork; learning how to shift into different levels of consciousness. This early practice can lay the ground work for successful work as teens and adults. (Did I mention, too, how it can help them calm down when they’re stressed? LOL)
If you like to sweep your ritual circles, this is another perfect kid-appropriate task. PLUS, if you work with faerie energy or ancestors in your circle I believe that children are especially well connected to those entities and you might even find that your children’s contribution in the form of invocations to those spirit beings may be particularly powerful and potent!
— BUT, even if you have witchy friends, you all probably work and finding time to plan, write, AND make time for the ritual itself often times thing just don’t happen. CCSC Online Coven takes out all the work. As I say: Just add your own altar tools!
How do you include your witchlings in YOUR practice? Tell me about it in the comments below. We all could use as many ideas as possible raising this children to Walk the Path of Beauty!